Janis Spindel, the "Cupid of Wall Street" matchmaker and author of Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year, is obsessed with finding the right match for her attractive, well-groomed, upscale, professional clientele. Here, she reveals the matchmaking audition process, and why she prefers to match men.

Q: Why do people come to you instead of going to a bar or setting up an online profile?

A: With online dating, women lie about their age and their weight and men lie about their age and their height. Thirty percent of the men are lying about being married. It's a very big trust issue. Online dating works for some people, but it mostly doesn't work for the people who come to me.

Q: When someone comes to you, where do you start the process?

A: All of my clients are men. They go through a screening process on the phone, and then they go through a simulated date with me – which basically means every day I'm out for lunch with them or sometimes out to dinner. The restaurant they pick is part of the test – also, how they treat me, how they treat the waiter, their manners, if they drink, if they smoke, if they're on their Blackberry, if they're rude. It's the whole nine yards.

Q: And do you try to ask them all the typical questions that come up on the first few dates?

A: I interrogate them, I role-play with them, and I do everything possible. I ask them everything from past relationships to parents and siblings. Everything.

Q: And how do you know if they're telling you the truth?

A: Because I know. I've been doing this for 18 years, and I consider myself an amazing judge of character. I've gotten 869 couples married, and I have never, ever had a problem with anyone lying about anything. I do background checks on the men, so I know they are who they say they are, they work where they say they do, they are who they say they are, and their net worth is what they say it is. You can't lie to me. I'll bite you so bad you won't even know how much it hurts.

Q: So when you're screening bachelors, what are the grounds for dismissal?

A: Very unrealistic expectations of what they're looking for, someone who's rude, unattractive, arrogant, has bad manners – but it so rarely happens.

Q: Are there certain personality traits that make a man more matchable?

A: Kindness. Also, loyalty, intelligence, sense of humour. That last one's key – I have to have a guy who can banter back and forth or he'll never work with me.

Q: Do you have great guys on the roster that you find hard to match?

A: At the end of the day, I can lead a horse to water, but I can't make him drink and I can't account for chemistry. For men, chemistry is all visual. They fall in love through their eyes; I'm just the messenger. By the first, second, third introduction they're usually matched – I'm that good.

Q: Why do you only take on male clients?

A: Because women are high maintenance drama queens who are needy and nag and I don't care to work with them.

Q: When seeking out women to match with your male clients, what do you look for?

A: The first thing I look for is looks. Again, I'm just the messenger. Men hire me for rather substantial amounts of money to be their eyes, their ears and their agent. So, that's why I'm in Tulsa airport right now. Wherever I am, I'm always, always, always meeting people – I'm picking up 200 men a day and who knows how many women every day.

Q: How do people respond when you approach them?

A: Like magnets. I own the minds of men; I know what they want and what women do wrong. I say jump and women ask how high?

Bonus Q: You recently traveled to Toronto. Did you have any luck?

A: I found six men in two days. And I met quite a few great women.